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Self-leadership is the practice of understanding who you are,identifying your desired experiences and then intentionally guiding yourself towards them.The term self-leadership was first coined in the 1980’s by Charles Months and it evolved from the professional development literature based on the inside that anyone who wants to lead a team should first learn how to lead themselves. 

Steps to Develop Self-Leadership

The following are the steps to develop self-leadership

Self-Awareness 

Really understanding your own personality traits,your preferences,your strength and your style.

Self- Reflection

Self-reflection is about thinking about the things that you do and trying to understand what has a positive impact and what might have had an unconscious or unintentional negative impact on others.It’s figuring out what’s working well,strengths should you apply,the communication style to choose in any given situation and to learn from past mistakes.

Self-Regulate and Reframe

This has to do with your understanding ,what’s currently going on being in charge of the narrative and the stories and the interpretations and assumptions that you are making so that they are serving you.Talk more to your brain, then you listen to it.

How to improve self-leadership 

These are the few ways to improve self-leadership

With Truth-Telling

Truth-telling is something that might seem pretty obvious but when you think about the fact that a lot of us don’t even tell the truth to ourselves,it becomes really clear why we have so much of a problem delivering the truth to others.People can feel when we are not totally open and authentic and honest and sometimes we don’t tell the truth because we don’t want to feel discomfort.If we are not willing to feel this discomfort in ourselves,do you really think other people are going to be willing to feel discomfort when we tell them the truth?When we think about it,it’s telling the truth to someone doesn’t want to hear and chances are that’s a reflection for our own resistance to the truth that other people share with us.If we can start to get really comfortable with the truth within ourselves then we are able to hold a lot more space for people to share the truth with us.

With Self-Forgiveness

Self-forgiveness is the art of being able to let things go and not just letting go things of ourselves but it’s also forgiveness in general but especially forgiveness of ourselves.One of the things that we hang on to is the mistake that we’ve made in the past and it can be very challenging to take steps forward when we are always scared about making the mistakes of the past,that’s why having a process and having a skill for forgiving ourselves is so powerful.

With Integrity

Integrity means keeping  your word,doing what you say you are going to do.Perfect integrity is actually impossible.There is no way that you could ever your entire life perfectly keep your word every time.So,integrity isn’t necessarily about only keeping your word but it’s when your word when you don’t keep your word,when you do fail,when you do have a breakdown that you make it whole,that you fix it,that you clean it up and one of the best ways to clean it up is to number 1 acknowledge that you didn’t keep your word and then create a new promise and a new structure to keep it in the future.

With Radical Responsibility

Radical responsibility as the practice of taking 100% responsibility for 100% of your life,100% of the time.Now there is a distinction between responsibility and fault or blame.It’s true that things might happen to you that are not your fault.This happens all the time,it’s not about  assigning blame,it’s not about taking like okay it is my fault,i created this somehow but rather taking responsibility for how you show up in the face of that situation or circumstance.Someone who has mastered the art of self-leadership takes radical responsibility all of the time.